I’M A WOMAN AND I PLEDGE NOT TO ENCOURAGE CHAUVINISM.
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Women empowerment, Feminism and Equality The three words, used so frequently as weapons to strengthen the power of women in the society yet so widely misconstrued by its users (Both men and women)
Modern feminism solely encourages equal treatment for both the sexes. (yeah, its closely related to the word feminine but it under no circumstance advocates the theory, “WOMEN ARE ALWAYS RIGHT”.)
Women empowerment: Implementing policies and promoting ideas which portray women as the weaker section of the society? Well, that mostly is opposite of empowerment. (Don’t forget the speeches where you will find the term weaker section attached to the word women by default)
Equality: The mother of all confusion, Equality. Agreed , you can’t always equally treat, sections which are so different from each other but we also can’t deny that to a certain extent that equality is plausible. No one can empower women other than they themselves. LADIES if we want to be treated as equals we need to rewire ourselves and show the world that just because weak and women both start with a ‘ W ’ , they are not synonymous .
- ALWAYS EXPECTING MEN TO OPEN DOORS OR PULL CHAIRS FOR ME:
Who doesn’t likes to be treated specially? However, don’t you think that expecting chivalry only from men is a bit biased? Why can’t we open doors or pull chairs for them. Think about it it would be a major boost to our position in the society. (Don’t forget to say Thanks to people who do this for you)
- EXPECTING MEN TO ALWAYS PAY MY BILLS:
When you always expect men to pay the bills, it somehow sends a signal to them that they need to take care of you and somewhere nurtures CHAUVINISM. Let’s try and split the bill if we can or be considerate enough to not burn a hole in the men’s pockets if they are solely making the payment.
- ASSUMING THAT A WOMAN IS THE VICTIM IN ALL CASES:
Its a serious one here. I have noticed that whenever a woman is involved in a case most of the time we assume her to be the victim. Ever thought why? It’s because of the belief engraved into our minds that men are strong and thus can’t be the victim (victim=weak=women). Let’s be fair here, if we demand equal treatment, we should deliver it too. (No compromise on that)
- PRETENDING TO BE THE DAMSEL IN DISTRESS WHEN I CAN HANDLE THE SITUATION:
Some women do this to attract a man’s attention which does make him feel like a superhero (Ironman may be ) but it makes men think that we can’t take care of ourselves . A humble request, if you can handle the situation then don’t pretend that you can’t.
- ASKING FOR FAVOURS JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE A WOMAN:
Like, “Main aurat hoon , mujhe seat de do , tum to mard ho aur mard ko dard nahi hota”, is a missile powerful enough to destroy our empowerment project. Plus men are humans not robots let’s treat them as equals and understand that they get tired too.
- EXPECTING MEN TO ALWAYS BE THE PROTECTOR :
We are humans; we need to protect each other. Women should protect men whenever possible (Okay, I understand we can’t do the Akshay Kumar martial arts moves) and men can do the same. EQUAL EQUAL .
- NOT DOING SOMETHING BECAUSE ITS A GUY THING:
If you like watching sci-fi movies or want to ride a bike, DO It !!!!! They don’t have the words ONLY FOR MEN stamped on them.
- ASSUMING THAT CRYING IS A WOMAN’S BIRTHRIGHT:
Men do cry. It’s just that they have bigger tear glands which helps them to hide their tears. Please don’t freak out when you see a man cry and never ever say the “STOP BEING A GIRL” phrase (It’s bad for us because people associate crying with weakness). Anyone can cry, it’s just a way of venting out after all, no big deal
- NOT STANDING UP FOR OTHER WOMEN WHEN THEY ARE RIGHT :
When you judge other women for wrong reasons and don’t support them when they are right, you disEMPOWER us.
BTW taking a stand is a personal choice but if you can’t then at least don’t do something which messes up the situation.
Lastly, no one will treat you as an equal if you continue to be overly dependent on them.
Let’s strive to delete the weaker section and women connection from the society’s dictionary by proving that when we demand equal treatment, we mean it.
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